The Spirit World is in the Zoom Room Waiting for You

So many people avoid sitting with a medium because they're afraid of what they might experience— and it's typically the opposite of what they expect.

In just the last couple of weeks, I’ve talked to three people who told me they were interested in the spirit world, that they believed in it, but they were afraid of getting a session with a medium like me on Zoom or in person.

At a recent party, one woman told me that her daughter passed away a couple of years ago, but she was wary of a reading because maybe “other stuff” or negative entities might come through.

In the numerous years of years of doing readings, I’ve never experienced that. It’s all about connecting through the power of love, so you’re only getting whatever you need to hear that is in your best interest. It’s all love and light and all the good stuff, and the spirit world wants to share this with you.

I had another friend tell me she was afraid of getting a reading because she didn’t want to have anything to do with any family members who had passed down so much intergenerational trauma to her.

That is, of course, her choice and completely understandable. But most mediums I know would probably bet that her ancestors want to take responsibility for any crap they gave her, taking it off her shoulders, and they’d let her know that she had nothing but their loving support. This may sound dismissive of her experience, but truly, I’ve only known spirit people to come through the power of love for healing.

And then another person who read my first Substack confided that she learned secrets about her dad after he died and she wonders now if that’s something he would address or want to discuss. She has some strong feelings around some of this.

I have witnessed something called divine orchestration at play. You’re going to feel nudged to get a reading because the spirit world has a message for you, and it’s up to you whether you follow that nudge or not.

My experience, as with other mediums I know, is that those readings tend to deliver whatever is in your highest good, and the spirit world knows what you need better than we do. And it’s usually not about dishing out dirt or sharing buried secrets that hurt.

Another medium friend told me that she’s heard from people who simply worry that their loved one won’t show up in a reading. My understanding is that if that happens, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are not there; it might mean that it’s not the right time or their loved one wants them to go within and build their own private relationship with them—without the help of a medium. (More on how to do that in future posts)

Think of it like a waterfall.

And lastly, another medium told me that people say they don’t want to “drudge up” difficult emotions with a reading. I know the word healing is overused, but most of us walk around with unresolved stuff brewing beneath the surface, things that work in our subconscious, that keep us from feeling whole. These sessions can be a release valve for all of it—anger, abandonment, lack of love, guilt, shame or pain. Sometimes it’s just nice to know our loved ones aren’t really gone, that they’re at peace and that they are with us.

I was talking about this topic with Sally Hawk, a medium and founder of VerySoul.com, a global platform that develops and qualifies mediums. She was trying to adequately describe what a reading feels like.

“It’s euphoric,” she says. “It’s like getting to the top of a mountain and the view is magnificent. Or like standing in front of a waterfall and you feel the energy of it. That’s what they’re going to get.”

People change when they die.

Still, no doubt, a session with a medium can sometimes be emotional.

For me, there was only one time when a woman was angry after a reading. She said she was pissed that her dad was still depressed in the spirit world. But this was simply a misunderstanding.

Folks on the other side will come through with evidence of who they were when they were alive—and that could have been anything from depressed, addicted and anxious to happy-go-lucky, a jokester or serious. But this is to show you that it’s really them, so you recognize them. But if they had it rough here on earth, they are clearly different on the other side. They say they’re at peace, and they see their lives and you in 360-degrees with deeper understanding, love and compassion. They often take responsibility for how they were in this life and offer just the kind of messages that free us.

I had one session with a woman whose mom came through who had been abusive to her when she was alive. I recognized this, and I asked her if she wanted to hear from her or not. The woman said yes-and-no. She allowed her mom to come through with evidence of their turbulent story together, and her mom acknowledged that she treated her daughter horribly and took responsibility for it. The daughter also felt this new love from her mom that she never before felt. She later told me she felt lighter somehow, and that she’d waited her entire life to get that message.

Dead people see things from a difference perspective now.

In writing my upcoming book, Tapped In: Spiritual Insights from the Lives of Mediums, Healers and Near-Death Experiencers, I learned that many people who have had near-death experiences (NDEs) have what’s called a life review when they die. They literally go back to every single moment of their life, which apparently is possible because of that weird spatial dimension of time; time doesn’t exist. They even go back and even feel what other people around them felt in those same moments.

Scientific research on NDEs by Bruce Grayson, a skeptical psychiatrist out of the University of Virginia, found seven hundred cases of these kinds of life reviews out of thousands of NDEs he studied. Those people often talk about the life review happening all at once.

It’s hard to wrap your head around.

Here’s another comforting thing I learned when I interviewed a woman who had a near-death experience after a toxic reaction to a medication. She said that she learned that on the other side, all of the darkness in the world is burnt away by this intense white light. A number of other NDErs I interviewed said similar things.

Go on a spiritual journey.

As for uncovering things about yourself that you don’t want to see —whether in meditation or medium sessions or any other kind of “woo-woo” activity— that’s just part of the spiritual journey.

Andy Byng, a well-known medium I interviewed for Tapped In, said it’s about peeling back the layers of who you are. It can be difficult at times, but it’s always better on the other side.

“If you want an easy life,” he says, “spirituality is not the thing to be involved in. But if you want a rich life, then you have to go on a spiritual journey.”

P.S. If you’re inclined, you can message me for a free private reading or you can use my promo code TAPPED In for a free reading with another verified medium on www.VerySoul.com.

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